Do what you want when you wanna do it! This includes making changes in your life! Lets play with the idea that you don’t need to force change upon yourself until you are ready.
Imagine you are a flower, closed tight like a tulip bulb. How hard will it be to open you when you are still a bulb? If someone tries to pry that flower open when it is closed, it’s extremely difficult and if you are forced open, it won’t be beautiful petals- that’s for sure.
Waiting for times of natural change is okay. Trust that you will know when you are ready. Hold the intention and have faith that you will change when you are ready.
Making changes hard, and nearly impossible if you are not ready. Most of us don’t like things that are hard and we certainly don’t like doing things before we are ready. We like things cheap, convenient, fast and easy. Well… Good news. I’m here to tell you that change can be like that too!
You’ve all heard stories of people who smoked for 40 years and then one day “just decided” to quit. And did “cold turkey.”
Fun fact: Cold turkey was first used in 1910, and may not actually mean a cold turkey, but rather, the word “cold” is implied as a personality trait of being blunt and matter-of-fact. The turkey part comes from an old slang “talk turkey” which means to speak plainly. It was also later suspected that this saying refers to the symptoms of withdrawal that occur when someone suddenly quits heroin. Read more about cold turkey’s origins
You know why these people were able to quit? Because they were ready! Screw all of that motivational B.S. about “Start today” “Quit Now”. I say “No way!” Wait! Keep doing the thing you are ambivalent about changing until that day comes when you wake up and think to yourself “Fuck this. I’m done” And that will be that. Plain and simple.
Every behaviour is addicting in its own right. Each time you do a behaviour, it is more likely that you will do a similar behaviour again. For example, if you decide to go to the gym today, it is more likely that you will decide to go to the gym tomorrow.
But, if you choose to hang out and drink beer today, then it is more likely you will hangout and drink beer tomorrow (by the way, I’m am not implying either is the right or choice here, I think both are great).
The truth is, we will not change until we are ready to change. And we, as humans, are lazy by nature! So we will continue doing whatever it is we are doing until something happens and we NEED to change. And then BAM! Change happens! You just decide.
Why waste time trying? There is no trying, only doing. If you wanna be bad ass, do what you want, when you want, until you don’t want to do it any more. Then quit. And then release a long sigh of contentment, as you continue on enjoying the simplicity of your life.
“She loves the smell of coffee, bloomed roses, and new beginnings” — Sonia Azalea
“Change is the only constant thing in life” — Heraclitus
“Change is the end result of all true learning” — Leo Buscaglia
and of course….
“This too shall pass”