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Always Get What You Want and Achieve your Goals

How to never let a goal go unaccomplished again –> Don’t set any  goals.

How to get what you want –> Want what you get.

Every one knows the classic way to set a goal right? The classic “SMART” goal formula?

Specific
Measurable
Action orientated
Realistic
Time based

Well… I don’t know about you, but I’ve set a fair amount of these kind of goals… I rarely accomplish them, and often I “change my mind” before I cross the finish line and smack the hand of accomplishment as I wiz by singing my own celebratory tune.

bAdAss quick tip: If a tool doesn’t work, don’t use it. 

We all  have brains. Our brains are malleable, and yes, they have more plasticity than we initially imagined. That being said, our human nature is still to stay the same. Our human nature is to go towards comfort and away from pain and discomfort.

And guess what? Typically making positive changes in the direction of living a badass fulfilling and awesome life is frickin’ scary!

Ahhhhhh! Scream loud if you’re scared. Ahhhhhhh!

Studies are finding now that goal setting can actually be detrimental not only for individuals, but also on the corporate level. Large companies that set high goals for producing products can tend to skip necessary steps and use unethical ways to accomplish these goals.

Example: Ford made a goal to build a car that was less than 2000 pounds and less than $2000. They did it! But at what price? They skipped safety testing and later discovered that the gas tank was quick to explode if rear-ended. Fifty-three people died. Oops!

Read Ford Pinto’s defence in the Chicago Tribune Feb.19, 1980

Setting specific goals can affect you negatively! They can

  • Leave you slacking and losing balance in other areas of your life
  • Lead to narrow minded thinking
  • Promote white lies to yourself and others to achieve it
  • Increase sense of ego
  • Decrease intrinsic motivation

Wow! See?! Goals are nothing but bad news!

Okay so now you are left asking “well what the heck? If I want to release my inner bAdAss I gotta do something, and now you’re telling me not to set goals so what the hell?!”

What the hell is right! So what I say always is find out what works for you and DO THAT! If you set goals and accomplish them, by all means keep doing it. And teach me how please! But if you want an alternative, I have some ideas.

If you must make goals, figure out the goal formula that works for you. Do you work best with big goals or small ones? Large concepts or specifics?

bAdAss quick tip: Don’t let anyone else tell you what works for you. 

Personally I like using large concepts and I give them a year to come into my life. I write the concepts down on a piece of paper that is taped to my wall where I look in the mirror in the morning when I wake up. I read the words and watch them slowly fade on the paper as they develop into my life. If I were to recommend anything about setting goals, this would be my advice.

  • Make them awesome, fun and exciting! If you wanna get stronger, then join a class that is fun, like kickboxing, breakdancing or gymnastics.
  • Know in your heart why achieving that goal is important to you. Whatever it is, you must have a reason.
  • Do not make your fears goal orientated. i.e.”Stop eating burned toast so I don’t get cancer”. Never make goals based on fear.
  • Life is for enjoying and having fun. If working on the things you want more of in life isn’t fun then why would you want more of them in the first place?

How about this for a goal: Enjoy today as much as possible.

:)

QUOTE

“You don’t get what you want in life, you get what you are” — Les Brown

FURTHER READING AND RESOURCES

http://hbswk.hbs.edu/item/goals-gone-wild-the-systematic-side-effects-of-over-prescribing-goal-setting

 

New Year, New Beginnings

Happy New Year!

The New Year is about making positive change. We have new beginnings all the time. Every Monday is a new beginning, every birthday, every new month, every new moon…

But the new year, I suppose because it comes less often than those mentioned above, we seem to have some big expectations for ourselves.

One day you woke up and decided that you were going to learn how to walk. You didn’t get it the first time or the second time you tried. You fell many times. But, you always got back up.

And now look at you, you’re walking, talking, chewing gum, thinking about all the things that you need to do next, and carrying five bags of groceries all at the same time!

When looking to form new habits, be ready to slip and get back up.

STEP BY STEP GUIDE TO YOUR NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS

1. PLAN – As always, you need a plan. Put it on paper and put it somewhere you will see it regularly. Instead of labelling it your goals, label it something like “Things I’m doing this Year/month/week/today” This frames your goals as things you are doing, and not things you hope to do.

2) BE REAL – Your plan needs to be  realistic. Don’t expect to become a new person overnight. Accept yourself and make small manageable changes so you don’t feel overwhelmed.

3) START SMALL – Even if you want big changes, start with small ones so you can build a stable foundation of habits.

4) BREAK YOUR NEW HABIT – There will be times where you have taken on too much or something in life happens. Be ready for this. If you fall off the wagon, it’s okay, just jump back on. Don’t beat yourself up, instead pick yourself up and continue.

5) PLAY X’s and O’s – Jerry Seinfeld has a theory called the chain theory. You get a calendar and put an X on the day every day you complete your new habit/goal. This means if you can’t do it one day then you “break the chain”. This is a great method for some, but I’ve added an extension. If you break the chain, circle that day. Write in the circle what happened and what you change so you don’t break the chain next month.

6) STICK WITH POSITIVE STATEMENTS – Instead of making your goal “spend less money”, make it “save more money”. You will be more effective if you can keep your goals and your thoughts (and ideally your bank account) in the positive.

7) PRIORITIZE – You know what I mean. Most important things goes on top (kinda like how the most important part of the dessert goes on time, like whipped cream, mmm my favorite). Do your new habit first, preferably in the morning before anything else if possible. Getter done. (Kinda like how when I go out for dinner, I like to order dessert first to make sure I have room for it. I can always take my leftover dinner home).

8) MAKE ‘EM MEASURABLE – You need to check if have you completed your goal. So instead of making the goal to “smile more” chose something that is more specific and measurable like “smile to three strangers per day every day this month”. Have a date that you are going to have this done by and a box that you get to check off when you’ve completed it.

9) CHOOSE GOALS THAT EXCITE YOU – If you hate going to the gym, don’t make your goal to go to the gym 3 times a week, you probably won’t do it. Find things that you like to do, maybe you like swimming or running or gymnastics… Why would you make a goal to spend your time doing something you don’t like to do? That goes against everything moodmagnitude promotes.

10) FOCUS ON THE BIGGER PICTURE – Maybe your little manageable goal is to eat a salad for dinner three times a week. When you are eating your salad for the third time this week and dreaming about a pepperoni pizza, think to the big picture. Think about why you made this your plan in the first place, maybe it’s about being healthy and having more energy. Remember that accomplishing your goal will taste way better than any piece of pizza and the feeling will be better than the feeling that will left in your gut after overindulging in a greasy pizza.

Hope some of these tips help!

If you are looking for any further resources, tips or have any further comments please don’t hesitate to drop me a line!

My 2015 starts this monday when I move back to my little cabin on Lasqueti Island. I am so excited to get back to my own little home! Once I am there I plan to get my internet hooked up so I can continue blogging, a little more seriously.

Go to Vipassana in February

I will continue doing yoga regularly, on a daily basis. I will start teaching yoga on Lasqueti and continue to volunteer teaching on the psyc unit in Nanaimo on Sundays through to the end of March and then re-assess.

I’m focused on connecting with people, growing a garden and moving forward with my self and career development.